I’ve begun silently fighting back against jerks on the subway who sit as spread out as possible. Basically I match your stance.
This guy was sitting on the train with his knees splayed and his hands on the seat to either side of him. So I slowly backed up into the seat next to him forcing him to either move his hand or have me sit on it. Then I spread my knees equally wide and stuck my elbows out just as far.
It’s amazing how uncomfortable this makes men.
Eventually he closed his knees more (so I closed mine.) The ladies across from me noticed this silent warfare and were slightly confused. When he finally got off the train and I sat like a “lady” they realized what I did and grinned at me.
Yep. This is my new thing to do on the subway.
ur a little rebel i like u
You know why most guys sit like that?
It’s a body language signal known as a “crotch display” and it’s used to show dominance/confidence.
This is why guys get uncomfortable when women do this, and also why women are told to sit “like a lady” - basically, without the crotch display. When women do it, they’re telling all the dudes that they’re either stronger or on equal standing with them.
So I say right on, ladies! Go for it.
WE DO NOT SIT WITH OUT LEGS SPREAD BECAUSE WE WANT TO ‘SEXUALLY DOMINATE THE SCENE’ OR WHATEVER BULLCRAP YOU WANT TO COME UP WITH.
WE SIT LIKE THAT BECAUSE WE HAVE TESTICLES IN THE MIDDLE THAT ARE FUCKING SENSITIVE TO HEAT AND PRESSURE, MAKING IT MORE COMFORTABLE TO SPREAD OUR LEGS.
WE CLOSE OURS WHEN YOU ‘IMITATE’ US BECAUSE WE REALISE YOU WANT MORE SPACE AND SO WE BE POLITE AND GIVE IT TO YOU
WE SIT LIKE THIS ANYWHERE
HOW ARE WE OPRESSING YOU WHEN WE SIT LIKE THIS ON OUR OWN, IN PRIVATE?
NOT EVERYTHING IS THE GODDAMN PATRIARCHY
jesus christ sit down and learn something without complaining about your balls for two seconds
men are socially trained take up more space than women. this isn’t a fucking myth, okay? this isn’t girls whining because we have no leg room on the metro (though that accounts for something as well), this is because men are taught that they’re worth more, their voices, their opinions, their bodies, and women are conditioned to limit themselves: emotionally, verbally, mentally, physically. women are told to cross their legs and yet when a guy takes up space. whether people like it or not this social phenomenon is related to gender conditioning and now some dude thinks he can apparently shut down an entire gender-sensitive argument (while denying it is such) with “but my balls are hot”
look not to speak for them — i hope someone speaks up to give their thoughts — but i need to mention i hear reports of trans*men saying that during their transitions this is something they are taught to do: “dominate,” assert themselves, take up physical space without apologizing for it (i’m sorry if my wording isn’t the best) as part of their transitions to “pass” as men! because even subconsciously it’s something we acknowledge men do in this universe but are reluctant to allow women to do whether you accept it or not so fucking tell me people are just making this shit up one more time i stg
awwww yessss finally saw a good callout for this junk. thank you, meggannn.
as a transdude i can say, this is definitely a behavior we’re told to adapt in order to pass- unfortunately i find a lot of the “go-to” behavior transmen are told to adhere to is pretty bunk stuff. (also just a note: no need for the asterisk in “trans*men”, it’s used in words like “trans*” to denote that its an umbrella term, so you would just say “transman”. nitpicky but just letting you know.)
not surprising, since men are expected to be misogynistic to a certain extent.
this “spread em wide and take up all the space you can” attitude has ALWAYS really, really bothered me. i don’t necessarily pass too well- men see me as a girl most of the time, and pull this shit on me. i had to sit on a 6+ hour bus ride with a dude who not only spread his legs as far as possible, but literally had his elbow in my side the entire ride. i hate being touched by strangers, and having him rest his knee on my leg and jabbing his elbow into my side was so infuriating. all i could do was “fight” for my space and spread my legs, too, but he was pretty stubborn and seemed to be taking it out on me by blasting his headphones and singing along. couldn’t even sleep, it was horrible.
thing is, guys feel soooo fucking entitled to their dicks, and are encouraged to be, they think their balls deserve their own area code. it’s disgusting, and i wanna clap for the girls who are fighting back with their own body language. it’s not always easy.
dudes, your package isnt that big, please. you can comfortably sit without taking up an ungodly amount of space and making the women around you uncomfortable. women don’t cross their legs or keep their legs together to give you more room- they do it because they choose to sit that way. come on.
seriously the most annoying thing about public transit, ever. i’m glad to see this topic being brought to light on tumblr. i hope more dudes stumble across this thread and become more mindful of how they’ve been socialized to “dominate” public spaces and use aggressive body language to claim space.
and seriously, to the women fighting against this- bravo. i know how tense it can be when you’re fighting for your own space with some stubborn asshole who doesn’t give a shit about how you feel, and has never stopped to consider it.
"Does it need saying?"
"Cishet white males don’t understand-" you know what, maybe we do.
hey guys cishet white males understand a lot of things. examples
- how to play call of duty modern warfare
- how to play call of duty black ops
- how to play call of duty modern warfare 2
- how to play call of duty black ops 2
- how to play call of duty ghosts
and those are just SOME of the call of duty games that cishet white males understand
this just in: it’s perfectly okay to be a total asshole to someone just because they’re a white guy
wow good morals not hypocritical at all A++ good job everybody round of applause
our apologies, allow me to amend the statement. cishet white males also understand
- gta I-V
this is exactly what i mean when i say that most people on this webstie dont give two shits about equality. they just want to be on top. “its ok to make fun of people as long as theyre cis, white, and or male!”
shut the fuck up you ARE ALL FUCKING TODDLERS
i’m sorry sir did i forget a game? was it assassin’s creed? it was assassin’s creed, wasn’t it. once again, i apologize
Can you honestly not see how childish your resentment and mocking of white, cishet, males is?
WAS IT SKYRIM?????
go outside and read a book you pathetic trash all you’re promoting is a homeschooled kid on tumblr crying about being cyber bullied and pretending to drink the tears of other human beings
it was skyrim
this post got so much better
Time And Relative Dimension In Space
most common thought: damn haha im going to have to deal with that sooner or later